You're not weak. Your brain just bailed on you.
If you've ever thought:
- "I know he's never leaving her... so why can't I stop wanting him?"
- "I'll just check his wife's Instagram one more time"
- "I feel so pathetic for missing someone who was never really mine?"
- "I know exactly how this ends and I still keep breaking no contact?"
- "My hand is literally hovering over his name in my phone"
Here's the truth:
When you feel that ache for him, your body goes into survival mode, and your ability to think clearly shuts down completely.
That's why:
- Logic disappears
- Urges feel life-or-death urgent
- You act in ways that don't reflect who you really are
- You break promises to yourself within hours
You're not weak.
Somewhere along the way, your nervous system learned that unavailable love feels like home. Now it's just doing what it was trained to do.
Insight doesn't work in a spiral. Regulation does.
What this audio library actually does
This is not a meditation app.
This is not "just think positive."
This is not therapy you have to explain to anyone.
This is a circuit breaker for when your brain is offline and your dignity is on the line.
These audios are designed to:
✓ Interrupt the spiral in the moment it starts
✓ Regulate your nervous system so threat signals calm down
✓ Bring your rational decision making back online
✓ Create space between urge and action
✓ Protect your self-respect, peace, and progress
You don't have to fight the spiral.
You just have to press play.
Why this works when "thinking it through" doesn't
Most advice talks to the thinking brain.
But when you're triggered, the thinking brain is offline.
These audios work by:
- Regulating the nervous system first (reducing the threat signal)
- Calming the emotional overwhelm
- Rational decision making comes back online
- Creating space between urge and action
Relief first. Clarity second.
Why willpower doesn't work (and what does)
Here's what you've probably tried:
- "I'll just be stronger this time"
- "I'll white-knuckle through the urge"
- "I won't let myself think about him"
- "I'll delete his number and force myself to move on"
And here's what probably happened:
You lasted a few hours. Maybe a few days.
Then the spiral hit and you caved, harder than before.
Then you beat yourself up for being "weak."
But here's the truth no one tells you:
Willpower is a mental resource.
It depletes throughout the day.
It runs on the prefrontal cortex, the exact part of your brain that goes offline when you're triggered.
Using willpower to stop a spiral is like trying to stop a cracked dam from collapsing with your bare hands. Eventually it gives way.
What actually works: Regulation, not restriction
Your nervous system doesn't respond to "just don't."
It responds to regulation.
When the urge hits, your brain is sending a threat signal:
"You need him. You're unsafe without him. Contact = survival."
Willpower tries to ignore that signal.
Regulation calms that signal.
That's the difference between:
❌ Gritting your teeth and hoping you don't crack
✅ Actually reducing the urgency so you don't want to text him
❌ Fighting yourself
✅Regulating yourself
These audios don't ask you to "be stronger."
They change your nervous system state so the urge loses its grip.
You stop the spiral by changing the signal — not by overpowering it.
This isn't a character flaw. This is biology.
Your nervous system learned that contacting him = relief.
Until you give it a new way to regulate, it will keep driving you back to the old pattern.
These audios are that new way.
You're not building willpower.
You're building a regulated nervous system that doesn't need him to feel safe.
That's the only thing that lasts.
What's Inside
🎧 The 3-Audio Reset Library
1. Rapid Reset (4 minutes)
Use when: You're staring at his name in your phone. Your thumb is hovering. You're about to text, check his location, or draft "one last email."
What it does: Interrupts the dopamine spike, calms the urgency, brings your decision-making brain back online, before you lose 3 more weeks of progress.
2. Ground & Release (8 minutes)
Use when: Emotions feel stuck in your chest. You feel weak, pathetic, or humiliated for still caring about someone who was never really yours.
What it does: Helps you discharge the emotion safely instead of turning it inward or taking it out on yourself. Restores your nervous system to baseline so you can think clearly again.
3. Nighttime Reset (12 minutes)
Use when: It's 2am and your brain won't shut off. You're replaying conversations, imagining scenarios with him and her, or torturing yourself with "what ifs."
What it does: Calms rumination and regulates your system so you can sleep instead of reliving everything on loop.
Guided Audio Library
Short, potent tracks you can play the second the storm hits for instant relief
Quick-Start Video
Discover what’s going on in your brain and how to use this toolkit for relief in minutes
“Trigger Protocol” Card
A reminder of what to do quickly when the moment strikes
Save it to your phone
Beautiful Thoughts Collection
A curated printable page of self-worth reminders
🎥 Quick Start Video
Clear, calm instructions showing:
- Which audio to use when
- How to catch spirals early (before they take over)
- How to build emotional safety fast
No overthinking. No overwhelm.
Just: "Do this now."
🧠 Trigger Protocol Card (printable)
A simple reference guide that shows:
- What to do the moment you notice a trigger
- Which audio to reach for
- How to slow the spiral before it steamrolls you
Keep it on your phone. Print it. Screenshot it.
Whatever gets you to press play instead of pressing send.
🎁 BONUS: Beautiful Thoughts Collection
A private set of affirmations designed to remind you:
- Your worth exists outside of his attention
- You are not "too much" or "not enough"
- Choosing yourself is not selfish...it's survival
Not cheesy. Not surface-level positivity.
Grounded. Regulating. Restoring.
This is for you if...
✅You were emotionally involved with a married man
✅The relationship is over (or was forced into it)
✅You're trying to maintain no contact but struggling
✅You fight the urge to text, check up on him, or reach out daily
✅You spiral even though you "know better"
✅You want immediate relief without explaining yourself to anyone
✅You want something private, safe, and effective
This is NOT for you if:
❌You're still hoping he'll leave his wife
❌You want permission to keep contact "just as friends"
❌You're looking for someone to validate staying in the relationship
❌You want surface positivity instead of nervous system regulation
❌You're unwilling to interrupt the spiral when it starts
From someone who's been exactly where you are
I'm Joan, an affair exit coach, trained in neuroscience-based coaching techniques.
I've lived the spiral. The 2am texting. The "just one more look" at his Instagram. The shame of knowing better but not being able to do better.
I built this library because I needed it myself, and because every woman I've worked with has needed it too.
Your privacy is non-negotiable.
You'll never see names, faces, or locations of my clients anywhere. Just real results:
"I used the quick start video this morning. I know it's just an intro but hearing you talk about brain chemicals helped a lot "
"I put on the audios and did the breathing exercises. I was able to stop texting him, put the phone down and not look at it for hours."
"I used the Ground & Release audio and was able to come back to myself again instantly. I was surprised at how fast it worked."
This isn't theory. This is what works when everything else fails.
The next time you're about to:
❌ Text him at 2am
❌ Check if he viewed your story
❌ Draft "one last email"
❌ Look at his wife's social media
❌ Break no contact "just to get closure"
❌ Drive by his house or workplace
❌ Create a fake account to see what he's doing
...you'll have something that actually works.
Not willpower.
Not shame.
Not "trying harder."
Just regulation.
One-time purchase. Lifetime access.
No subscription. No ongoing commitment.
Just support when you need it most.
Private. Immediate. Shame-free.
30-Day Money-Back Guarantee
If these audios don't help you interrupt at least one spiral, email me and I'll refund you. No questions asked.
You literally risk nothing.
Final truth
You don't need to heal everything today.
You don't need closure.
You don't need to be "stronger" or "over it."
You just need something that works in the moment your brain shuts down.
Press play.
Let your nervous system settle.
Make decisions you'll respect tomorrow.
Stop the Spiral
Your Reset Method to restore calm
What You'll Get
3 Audios
▫️ Rapid Breath Reset
▫️ Ground & Release
▫️ Night-Time Reset Audio
Trigger Protocol Card
Quick Start Video
***BONUS***
The Beautiful Thoughts Collection
Reclaim your
peace now
$47
Special price $27
The Stop the Spiral™ method is grounded in neuroscience.
When you’re triggered, your brain’s emotional center floods your body with stress chemicals, hijacking logic and control. This 15-Minute Reset reverses that process, calming your body first, then re-engaging the rational part of your brain. In minutes, you move from reactivity to regulation, from chaos to calm.
How and when do I get access to Stop the Spiral™?
Do I need to be completely no-contact for this to work?
What if I don’t have much time or emotional energy right now?
Will anyone know I purchased this?
Peace Is the New Power.
And It Looks Damn Good on You.
You don’t have to keep crying in the bathroom, gripping your phone, or wondering how he still has this much power over you. Imagine the next time a trigger hits: you press play, and for the first time in forever, you feel steady. Clear. Untouchable. That rush of calm isn’t coming from him this time, it’s coming from you.
