That moment you didn’t see coming…
You were getting through your day.
And then—boom:
* A photo of him and his wife on social media.
* A rumor from a friend.
* A song that belonged to “your” time.
Do you feel your stomach drop the moment you see something that reminds you of him?
Does one text—or the lack of one—send you from calm to chaos in seconds?
Do you replay old conversations in your head, trying to rewrite what you wish you’d said?
Does your body react before your mind can even catch up? Heart racing, chest tight, thoughts spinning?
It’s like losing control inside your own skin. Knowing you’re spiraling but not knowing how to stop it.
You’re not broken; you’re triggered. Your body’s just doing what it was wired to do. And with the right tools, you can finally interrupt the surge, steady your emotions, and come back to yourself fast.
Everyone tells you to “just let it go,” “stay busy,” or “block him and move on.”
It’s the same recycled advice. White-knuckle your way through the withdrawal until it stops hurting.
But here’s the truth: you can’t think your way out of a chemical reaction.
What’s happening in your body isn’t a lack of discipline, it’s a flood of neurochemicals that make you crave him like a fix.
That’s why the old approach fails. You distract yourself all day, but the moment something reminds you of him (his name, his car, that song) the surge hits again. Your heart races, your stomach drops, and you’re back in the spiral you swore you’d escaped.
My approach flips the script: Instead of fighting your emotions, we teach your body how to calm the surge as it’s happening.
Stop the Spiral™ works with your brain and nervous system to interrupt the chemical chaos in real time, so you can steady yourself, quiet the craving, and feel back in control in 15 minutes or less.
What if the next time you feel that surge...
...The tight chest, the spinning thoughts, the urge to check your phone...and for once, you know exactly what to do. You press play, breathe, and within minutes your heartbeat slows. The noise in your head softens. You’re still hurting, but you’re steady enough to make it through the next 15 minutes without breaking your own heart again.
Picture that tiny pocket of peace.The proof that you can handle the moment. All you have to do is take the first step and stop the spiral.
STOP THE SPIRAL™ is your discreet, science-based toolkit to bring your body back from that flash of fury and panic, so betrayal stops running the show.
What’s Inside
Guided Audio Library
Short, potent tracks you can play the second the storm hits for instant relief
Quick-Start Video
Discover what’s going on in your brain and how to use this toolkit for relief in minutes
“Trigger Protocol” Card
A reminder of what to do quickly when the moment strikes
Save it to your phone
Beautiful Thoughts Collection
A curated printable page of self-worth reminders
Why It Works
You can’t stop the triggers.
But you can stop the surge.
Stop the Spiral™ works because it’s built on how your brain and body actually process emotional pain.
When a trigger hits, your limbic system floods your body with adrenaline, cortisol, and dopamine. That surge hijacks your rational brain, which is why you suddenly feel out of control, even when you know better.
The 15-Minute Reset interrupts that process in real time. By guiding your breath, grounding your body, and shifting focus, you send a safety signal to your nervous system. That signal tells your brain: the danger is over. Once the body calms, the thinking part of your brain comes back online, restoring emotional regulation, clarity, and self-control.
In short, it works because it doesn’t fight your emotions, it rewires your response to them.
Hi, I'm Joan...
I know what it’s like to love a man who could never truly be mine, and to convince myself it was worth the wait. Every time he ended it, I spiraled into a deep depression that went on for days.
With the help of a coach, I learned how to quickly calm the storm so panic, heartbreak and sadness no longer affected me.
That’s why I created Stop the Spiral™—to help women like you find calm, strength, and clarity in the moments that feel unbearable. I’m now a double-certified Life Coach through the Life Coach School and the Life Mastery Institute, and this is my way of reaching back to help you steady yourself, breathe again, and finally begin your comeback.
Stop the Spiral
Your 15 Minute Reset Method to restore calm
What You'll Get
3 Audios
▫️ Rapid Breath Reset
▫️ Ground & Release
▫️ Night-Time Reset Audio
Trigger Protocol Card
Quick Start Video
***BONUS***
The Beautiful Thoughts Collection
The Stop the Spiral™ method is grounded in neuroscience.
When you’re triggered, your brain’s emotional center floods your body with stress chemicals, hijacking logic and control. This 15-Minute Reset reverses that process, calming your body first, then re-engaging the rational part of your brain. In minutes, you move from reactivity to regulation, from chaos to calm.
How and when do I get access to Stop the Spiral™?
Do I need to be completely no-contact for this to work?
What if I don’t have much time or emotional energy right now?
Will anyone know I purchased this?
Peace Is the New Power. And It Looks Damn Good on You.
You don’t have to keep crying in the bathroom, gripping your phone, or wondering how he still has this much power over you. Imagine the next time a trigger hits: you press play, and for the first time in forever, you feel steady. Clear. Untouchable. That rush of calm isn’t coming from him this time, it’s coming from you.
